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people who say they are trans are trans. period. even if they “still look cis,” even if the only difference you, personally, notice is that they use different pronouns, even if they are totally closeted. people who call themselves trans are not cis. you do not get to un-trans someone because they do not present the way you want them to, or because they are closeted, or because they don’t pass, or for any other reason. if you see a trans person and your first thought is “gtfo trans spaces, you are not Trans Enough,” that is a you problem and you should square that away before you make any attempt to interact with other trans people.
some of us live in the real world, where it isn’t so easy or safe to be fully out or present the way we’d actually like. some of us don’t have access to the resources that would allow us to pass. some of us will never pass and don’t care about it anymore. and even if none of these things were the case, for fuck’s sake, presentation is not gender. nonbinary people who present in ways congruent with their assigned gender are not somehow less trans.