under the cut is various icons of Maddie Buckley from 911 ABC

Every actor should be this loud about their characters' homoerotic relationships with other men. Rip to the only real ally.

i genuinely think ocd is incredibly underdiagnosed bc i will see people posting what are obvious rituals, compulsions, intrusive thoughts, spiralling, hyper morality, etc and its like Have You Considered This Might Be An Issue

it isnt actually good or normal to have moral dilemmas every day about which posts you reblog. it isn't actually good or normal to check and recheck every message you send "just in case" you sent porn instead of a 'hi how are you'. it isn't actually good or normal to believe that your day will only go well if you have a specific keychain or whatever with you. like i'm not going to diagnose you but i do think some of you need to look into obsessive-compulsive disorder beyond "ha ha funny man wash his hands" portrayals.

I always tell people that even if they’re not pursuing diagnosis they should at least look at OCD support organizations’ pages on moral scrupulosity because that mindset is one you can literally see people developing in real time online.

I find this can help chip away a bit at stigma and confusion for people who have misconceptions that rituals can’t be mental (much of what people will describe as “checking for thought crimes” sounds a LOT like a mental ritual), as well as guide them towards tools for breaking the cycle of intrusive thoughts, obsession and ritual—or at the very least help persuade them that rituals reinforce, rather than “fix” those obsessions.

Like I do absolutely think people, especially ones who have access to counseling already, should raise and ask about these issues, including “I’m wondering if I might have OCD because…” (that is part of how I got diagnosed!), but these resources can be helpful for those who maybe haven’t had that kind of thought pattern before but encouraged themselves to do so because of social pressure to the point where they now have to un-learn it (essentially where it’s become disordered thinking) but will maybe balk at the idea of diagnosis because it hasn’t always been like that, or similar situations.

I try to emphasize that tools like this are open to anyone for whom they might be helpful, whether or not they have diagnosed OCD. Especially because some people who may get a diagnosis in future can still educate themselves now, and perhaps work towards one that way.

But for real, since I’ve started talking about OCD on my blog I’ve had literally half a dozen people talk to me (anon or not) about “…oh shit I had no idea OCD could look like [xyz thing]” and have The Realization, some of whom I know got diagnosed later and others of whom felt empowered to look into it when they hadn’t before because they were worried that seeking help with scrupulosity would be “appropriating OCD experiences” (people struggling with scrupulosity being scrupulous around needing help is definitely a bigger thing than I realized—it’s not just stigma or ignorance!).

Which is why I try to emphasize that everyone can and should take some time to learn about this stuff! The worst that can happen is you go “hm that doesn’t describe my experience” and you still know more about OCD and are better-prepared to support people who do have it.

Trump's desire to get Greenland is a direct attack on indigenous lands and it needs to be framed this way a lot more. Greenlandic Inuit make up about 90% of Greenland's population; they're frequently under attack from Denmark's government and now they're facing the US president threatening war just to tear their lands apart.

I often think about how loneliness is a more powerful emotion in theatre because you’re in a room full of people who all powerless to do anything but watch and I saw Eva Noblaza as Eurydice in Hadestown the other day and I cannot get her guttural “is anybody listening” out of my mind, she was screaming for someone to listen and you’re sat there mere metres away unable to let her know that you are, that her story is being told and she matters, so many people are listening but she doesn’t know that

Happy World Autism Day! Enjoy this Autistic Dad Tommy ficlet ♥️

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"Does it make me a terrible person, that I'm kind of excited about it?" Tommy asked, his fingers nervously tracing patterns on the kitchen counter. "I mean, I know she'll have struggles because the world isn't designed for people like her and me, but it's something we get to share. A special bond between the two of us."

"I don't think that makes you a terrible person at all, sweetheart. I think you're a great dad for noticing all the signs early. She has so many resources and things available that you never had," Buck said, his voice warm with reassurance.

Tommy nodded. "I just never want her to feel like there's something wrong with her. She's perfect. They both are."

"Yeah, they kinda are, aren't they?" Buck said with a soft smile.

"Can we get her a cake?" Tommy asked, eyes brightening with the idea.

"Are you sure this isn't just Papa using the diagnosis as an excuse for cake?" Buck asked, nudging Tommy playfully.

"Haha, maybe a little," Tommy admitted, "but I also think Sasha deserves to be celebrated and have it explained to her a little."

"I think that's a great idea," Buck said, pulling his husband close. "I'm glad you get to share this with Sasha. And I love you both just the way you are."

shipping characters who are just friends in canon is more than okay but what’s annoying is when people take screenshots of them touching and say “friends don’t do that!”. i hate to break it to you but friends do hug and hold hands and cuddle. saying ‘friends don’t do that’ is reenforcing the idea that physical touch is reserved for lovers

THIS. Okay, I think about this ALL the time. But when people scream that two male characters who physically affectionate and open with each other MUST be gay and in live with eachother, thats, like.... not good.

That is 100% reinforcing toxic masculinity and the idea that if you aren't stoic and closed off that you must be queer. Thats a horrible mindset to have. I know this is Fandom space, I know this isn't "real life", but everything translates.

I don't know, I just wish people would think more critically about labeling male characters as queer because of thier friendly interactions with other male characters. And I'm saying this as someone who has quite a few gay ships and as someone who is queer themselves.

Friends can hold eachother. Friends can kiss eachother. Friends can be sweet and kind and caring and affectionate without being attracted to their friends.

the fact that Buck discovered cock and immediately stopped gelling his hair and dressing like a conservative harvard legacy trustfund baby.... that's what good dick will do for ya

buck and tommy holding hands while fucking in missionary……interlocked fingers…..yeah

UM GUYS. I JUST NOTICED A CRAZY ISSUE W THE TUMBLR UPDATE.

YOU CAN SEE THE ICONS OF ANONS SOMETIMES.

The way I was able to recognize several anons in one of my inboxes bc of this error. Oh my god. Guys. This isn’t supposed to happen.

Weighing in to say:

YES, I SEE THIS ON MOBILE. HOWEVER I DO **NOT** THINK IT'S SHOWING THE ANON'S REAL IDENTITY.

The profile pictures I see next to anon asks are profile pictures that belong to other, non-anon asks in my ask box also. Some info

I think the bug is the inbox INCORRECTLY attributing anons to neighboring, logged-in asks.

Which is still a bad bug! Considering it makes it look like a long-time follower of mine sent me a spam ask.

And is worse if, say, one of these was anon hate.

But it's NOT the anon's real identity. It's a neighboring ask asker's identity

So if you have anon hate in your inbox that looks like it's attributed to your dear friend, who sends you lovely asks all the time, it was Not them.

CONFIRMED THE BUG IS INCORRECT ATTRIBUTION.

Thanks @thepatchycat for being a test subject. As you can see the icon being attributed to this ask is NOT the patchy cat

The pictured icon belongs to @watchingforcomets who sent me a nice ask about nail polish yesterday which I have not yet answered!

tommy wearing shirts that expose his neck and/or cleavage—i know what you are tommy kinard….a SLUT (affectionate)

i deserve another lou interview. gimme.

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