lil strict parenting rant, TL;DR at the bottom. i wanna know yalls thoughts tho and how yall get parented/parent fr
Edit: reading ts over i don't think i explained it all right i js kinda yapped but mb
see im a lil jit, so idk anything about parenting. but i see this hate on strict parenting, like people calling it borderline abusive. my mom is strict (to an extent), so i don't like understand some of the shit yall talkin about?
for example, my mom always says our privacy is not a right. It's smth she lets us have, and she has the right to invade it whenever she wants. We not allowed to lock doors, she controls the wifi, she has the passwords to all our devices and full complete access to everything on them. She knows ALL our friends, most of our business, and even controls who we hang out with. But from MY perspective, this is like perfectly valid? like the shit ive gotten up to would have driven me to suicide (and it came damn close) if she didn't use her tyrannical ahhh right to intervene and ground me FOR 10 MONTHS GRRRRR
Or whoopings. goddamn. i've been beaten with a spoon, a belt, a charging cord, a hanger, a shoe, even a DAMN broom (i could not walk for days wallahi), ever since i before i can remember. and tbh its lessened to the point where the last time was abt a year ago (now she just pinches me or casually throws smth at me), but even though it all hurt... i highkey deserved it every time, and i think i came out better for it? like im not a badass kid or nthn like that, but shit still happened 😭 i fr threw a candlestick at my mom when i was two, she still tells me how much she wanted to punt me for tht. but anyways, i think the real distinction is if you beating your kid outta rage, or doing it bc you love them. like there are some things i just wouldn't understand if i didn't get whooped, and like im sure mfs be hitting on they child outta "love" but there are sometimes when a few days afterwards, she'll take us out to eat or smth and apologize, but more importantly EXPLAIN why we did was wrong, and how it hurt us/others, why she hit us, and etc, and tbh i remember those just as much as THAT FUCKING BROOM GRAHHHHH
Religion too. No cussing, no porn, no coarse joking, only wholesome shit in the house fr. cant even play my music bruh i gotta have my airpods or climb to the roof 💔 We go to church every sunday (i once had a test and skipped it to study and she was mad af), and we listen to biblical stuff ALL the time, car radio, in the house, while we eat, its either white ppl christian music, gospel, or some unc preaching. She heavily encourages us to study the bible (but makes a big point of not forcing it), and makes SURE we know we going to hell 😭 calls us lil heathens fr, but she also says it's our decision. Me personally, im a lil on the fence, but i think everyone agrees that jesus was a pretty good guy, and that wanting yo children to emulate that isnt bad.
I think it just kinda boils down to trust. I see a lot of parents putting too much trust in their children, thinking that they gon "find they way" or some bs idk. but kids are gonna be kids, and i think though giving them the freedom to explore is great, but instead of trying to make sure your kids know you trust and respect them, you should make sure they trust and respect YOU. Because if your child only believes you loves them (and loves you in return) based on the freedom you give them. My mom has beat us into shape, and though there have been times where I have disrespected, disobeyed, lied to, and even HATED her, and there have been times where she has taken all my freedom and shit away, I have not once doubted she loved me.
idk thats my thoughts on this weird ass free range parenting shit eg ty for listening to ted talk
TL;DR: only thing free range is my eggs, my kid is not getting a phone at 10 only thing he getting this damn belt lmfaoooooooooo
